
A Place for Dignity in Eldercare?
As a growing number of older adults require care, some worry that respect may be a diminishing resource
In 1965 the British band The Who released “My Generation,” which would become an anthem of its time. As the iconic guitar-smashing songwriter Pete Townshend recalls in his autobiography, Who I Am, he penned the song—with its famous line, “I hope I die before I get old”—on his twentieth birthday, in response to his car being towed at the behest of the Queen Mother. But nearly a half-century later the mellowing rock star had changed his tune. “I want to age with some dignity,” Townshend said in a 2009 interview with the newspaper The Australian. “I just want to be part of the human race.”
It doesn’t seem a lot to ask. But as the oldest of Townshend’s baby boom fans turn 75 this year and the youngest approach 60, aging with dignity, for many, is looking less attainable than ever.
“Aging is a team sport. If you’re playing alone, you’re going to lose.”
“We’ve created a world where many millions of people get the opportunity to grow old,” says William Thomas, MD ’86, a geriatrician, author, and public speaker based in Ithaca, New York. “But at the same time we’re draining the dignity and worth from the experience of aging. As a society we have failed to understand that people living with frailty and dementia can have a damn fine life. We think they are a class of zombie and we’ve set up zombie facilities to store them.” Isolating people in this way, he says, reinforces the illusion that “old people can’t give, they can only receive. That’s extremely damaging, not only on a personal level but also on a cultural one.”
Breaking point
While only 2 percent of people 75 to 84 years old in the United States and 8 percent of those 85 and older live in the nation’s nearly 16,000 nursing homes, a fifth of the population dies in them, largely during rehab stays after being discharged from hospitals. Two-thirds of 65-year-olds will need long-term care services at some point in their lives, for an average of 28 months, and more than 30 percent of older adults need help with activities of daily living, which include walking, feeding, dressing, grooming, bathing, and toileting, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Nearly a third of people older than 85 also have Alzheimer’s, which vastly increases the need for long-term care.
Traditional sources of social capital are not as relevant as they have been in the past, in part because families are smaller and people may live farther from loved ones. Problems with nursing homes, commonplace before the pandemic, were brought into stark relief early in crisis, when nearly a third of all COVID-related deaths were reported to have occurred in individuals living in these facilities.
“The system was designed to fail,” says David Grabowski, an HMS professor of health care policy, given that it relies on two beds to a room, shared lavatories, staff shuttling between home and work every day, and underpaid certified nursing assistants and orderlies working in multiple facilities. But even before the pandemic, hardly a month went by without headlines blaring a nursing home scandal somewhere in the country. While accurate numbers are hard to come by, partly the result of underreporting, in 2013 the National Center for Victims of Crime indicated that more than 25 percent of nursing home residents experienced physical abuse, nearly 20 percent endured psychological abuse, and slightly more than 15 percent suffered gross neglect.
The picture isn’t always rosy when older adults live at home, either. Not only are they vulnerable to abuse and neglect in these living situations, but study after study has shown that caregiving can cost spouses, friends, adult children, and other relatives their own health, compromise their work productivity and career opportunities, and cause them significant financial and emotional distress.
“We often view aging as a family issue and not a policy issue,” Grabowski says. “But we all pay collectively when family caregivers suffer from physical and mental health troubles and have to leave the workforce. We haven’t internalized this problem as a country and created a true system for caring for older adults. We’re in a crisis of low-quality care and underinvestment, and our current approaches are not sustainable.”